生命故事是個人計劃, 職場侍奉, 教會事工 (part 3/3)

(3) 生命故事是教會事工

-思想的更新:「羊」能夠在事業/人生路做好見證, 在工作為祭、為主而活, 本身就是福音! 是以人為本的牧養, 不是以活動、數字為本的事工! 也無需與別人比較!

-教會可成立(或鼓勵信徒參加) REST 小組或「生命故事」小組

- Charles REST 小組目的 (可作參考)：
讓每位組員可以在實踐和管理生涯策略和寫好生命故事中, 得到REST：

•        R (renewal)--反思過去、察驗經歷、範式轉變、心意更新、得息得力
•        E (empowerment)--整合知識、行動學習、強化基督價值觀、促進身心靈健康
•        S (support network)--學習網絡、亦師亦友互相建立、逆境中得激勵、薪火相傳
•       T (transformation)--述說故事得轉化、實踐和守望標竿、活出信仰、豐盛人生

-教會的活動可以為寫好每個生命故事而設計, 例如:

      -各種思維或技巧性的課程和講座
      -閱讀 、電影、敬拜、禱告聚會
      -靜態營會/工作坊/聚會 : 為靈修、反思、更新
      -動態營會/歷奇/聚會 : 為激勵、 加油 、委身
      -團契中的查經、分享、關顧、守望

生命故事是個人計劃, 職場侍奉, 教會事工 (part 2/3)

(2) 生命故事是職場侍奉

-從各個角度 (區域、行業、 元素) 看, 環境是不斷轉變.....科技、經濟、知識、社會、政治等難預測; 政府、組織政策混亂, 帶來矛盾衝突;......

-強與弱的衝擊 , 有形或無形的衝擊 -> 地區 -> 行業 (e.g. 規則要變, 要轉形, 或消失) -> 組織 (e.g. 站不穩, 壽命短) -> 個人

-打工仔、自由人、老板, 要應付環境變化和衝擊......有不同的關心、警覺、感受和反應

-生命故事導師 (生命師父、生涯顧問、啟蒙者) 在單獨或小組交談中 (可在他/她的工作地方、附近的地點、或其他地方), 可和「羊」分析形勢和建議應變策略, 例如:

> 適應 : 妥協、適者生存(?)、人在江湖 (?)、温水煮娃(?)、二分化 (?)

> 以不變應萬變: 忍辱負重、自我麻醉(?)、莫不關心(?)、鴕鳥行為(?)

> 離開處境: 不能適應! 遠離試探 (人物、地點、工種). 轉工、轉行、移民、回校等

> 建立新處境: 不能適應! 變做老板、自由人、家庭管家、 讀神學!

> 改變大環境 (macro environment): 用各種軟或硬的變革方法

-身為信徒, 有些策略是沒有對錯, 但有些跟隨世界的, 是大有對錯! (路16：13)

-一些引導寫好生命故事的思想: 現在是否單打獨鬥、拼搏揾錢、及時行樂、聖俗二分化? 轉工、轉行是否輕舉妄動? 遠象、夢想是否來自神? 在震盪中有沒有抓緊神?..... ....人生路各路徑--事業(career life)、家庭生活(private life)、社會責任(society life)--連結得好嗎?

生命故事是個人計劃, 職場侍奉, 教會事工 (part 1/3)

(1) 生命故事是個人計劃

*用「 起承轉合」方法寫生命故事: "當你回望過去發生的事情( 起)，及反思事情發生的因果及當時的感受( 承), 你可以更加了解自己(承), 因而作思維和價值的更新(轉), 要為走前面人生路的計劃做得好(合), 策略實踐得好和進度可以跟進(合)"

*REST 也可以有這個意思:
R = Recollecting past incidents = 起 ;
E = Enlightening reflection = 承 ;
S = Shifting the paradigms = 轉;
T = Tracking actions planned and taken = 合

*連結過去、現在 (起、承)、 將來 (轉、合) ... 生命故事繼續寫下去
-「轉」是最重要: 立志忘記過去不好的東西, 要識得放手 , 要改過
-「合」是最難: 由下而上行動 (個人管理: 角色、時間、健康等) , 去達成個人使命、召命

*人生路策略性計劃「合」, 可從POST 模式開始; P = passion 熱忱, O = opportunity 機會, S = strategy 策略, T = talents 自己的強項
-沒有計劃, 就像沒有地圖: 了解境域、從前、現在、將來; 定方向、定目標; 了解每一條路的機會與威脅、風險, 然後作選擇
-沒有計劃, 就像沒有指南針: 迷失時可以找到方向. 是靠神的話語、聖靈的引導、生涯導師的建議. 發覺走錯時可發警報求救
-成功思維: 如果計劃完成，是成功! 如果計劃不能完成, 也是成功! 因為上帝是喜悅我們的心。這樣，我們一定是成功!

Charles writing his life story, RESTly (10)

My 5th big transition --returning to Hong Kong and making career change--took place in late 1986. Thinking that I could not continue to stay in Canada in a state full of dilemmas, I flew back by myself to Hong Kong and started working in a SME at a management level, through the introduction of an old colleague. I thought that a new life could begin. But it turned out to be a narrow path again. I was forced to resign after working there for only 3 months, because I could not cope with the conflicts between three bosses and their poor management styles which contradicted to what I had learnt from the MBA course.

What followed was a few months of looking for a comparable position. In vain, I started to pick up some part-time courses to teach. Unfortunately at that stage, my wife flew back to Hong Kong with our one year old daughter from Canada and had to experience pressure, again!

Since then, I began to teach management subjects on contract terms at different universities and organisations in Hong Kong (PolyU, CityU, USU, UKU, HKMA, HKPC). Although income was moderate and unsteady, I was thankful that I could get away from the chaos of the business arena.

Out of self motivation and for career advancement, I spent the last sum of saving for pursuing a doctorate degree (DBA) organized by a British Institution (IMC, U.K.). After about 4 years of extremely hard work, I achieved this new goal in 1990. The Action Learning management approach (that I still strongly believe in) advocated by this Institution  was not much appreciated by the management academics I had worked with. By late 1990s, I received less and less teaching contracts from CityU (probably due to a mismatch between Action Learning and its academic culture) and I had to find other ways to earn income. Slowly I realized that God might not want me to get a full-time teaching post in a traditional University. 

Charles writing his life story, RESTly (9)

My 4th big transition--marriage, baptism and storms--took place in 1984. A new life began, with added blessings--meeting my first spiritual mentor Pastor Wan at Ottawa, being baptized by him, abolishing a 7-year bad habit of smoking (helped by the Holy Spirit), and marrying my wife Hannah. 

Life was full of Christian flavor. Through months of occasional chatting with me, and a course on contemporary issues, Pastor Wan had gradually changed my old values and thoughts, and building the spiritual foundation for becoming a 'salt and light' Christian. Through such polishing, God had converted me with an already complex mind into a more complex person. For example, I felt dilemma at the idea of working for a gambling business, even in its IT department, and for an organization which had a history of trafficking weapons in war times.

The sun stayed for only a short period, however; a new career storm came shortly after my marriage. For a number of months, I had felt that some behavior of my boss (facing pressure from the top, I guess) had been unethical. My dilemma to follow his instructions increased. As our conflicts had reached a certain level, I lost my job. What followed were horrible job hunting experiences that had wasted much of my time and energy. Bitterness and uncertainties regularly gave pressure to me and Hannah, as we were expecting our first baby! During the ups and downs of job hunting, for more than one year, I had taken a few odd jobs and received unemployment benefits. In such a way, I have experienced a turbulent life in Canada, a country famous for her peaceful environment!

不一樣的時間管理，爲活標竿人生 (Part 3/3)

不一樣的時間管理關鍵詞

(c) 選擇 

-(A) 和 (C) 活動是必需的 

-先石(D) 後沙(B) ! 如想要 (D) 項達標, 通常要犧牲 (B)項 

-財宝(價值)在那裏, 心在那裏! 選擇 「應行」的, 非「不錯」的

-不要「身不由己」, 要「分別為聖」! 重視神(不是人)怎樣看你
-‘Not-to-do list’ 比 ‘To-do list’ 更重要 

-要對付「大敵人」: 電視、上網、打機、美容、行街、parties、「飲茶」、閒談…! 有「價值」嗎? 是「基本」嗎? 是「沙」嗎? 

-復審「角色集」、'time wasters and savers' list, 等 

(d) 集中

-選擇後便要集中去做! 向着標桿直跑! 

-要避免「澡音」影響、迷失、隨波逐流 

-辨別做狐狸 Vs 刺蝟 

-有multitasking習慣嗎? 要改變嗎? 

(e) 紀律

-監控 (control) : 有時要說「不」! 一些習慣, 要堅决地去停! 拖延實踐、承諾是否合理? 是否逃避? 

-駕駛(steering) : 同行者、導師可提醒、鼓勵 

-有恆心, 為活標竿人生!

(f) 平衡

-配合個人管理 : 學習、角色、健康、溝通、情緒、壓力…品格 -平衝生活 : 在 PL, WL, SL

-預備時間處理突發事情, 避免壓力

-學習得息得力. 學習下放, 減輕壓力!

(g) 評估

-檢討、反省:「標桿」(石頭) 是否能實踐? 為什麼? 方法是否適合? 應否改良? ....

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不一樣的時間管理，爲活標竿人生 (Part 2/3)

(4) 時間管理如要有成效 (effective), 時間運用要為活標竿人生

(a) 要有目標導向:

-在 PL, WL, PL, 人生路要定短、中、長目標 

-短期可改動, 長遠目標、夢想不輕易改

-先do right things 才 do things right 

-a person can be efficient to do wrong things!

(b) 要有行動計劃:

-列出每週需要的時間(參附頁) 

-每人有不同, 如召命、價值、需求、習慣

-(A) 基本活動，例如進食、運動、休息、靈修、看新聞等 

-(B) 生活姿彩性活動 , 例如看電影、興趣、享受等 

-(C) 突發/應變性活動, 例如醫治疾病、遠親到訪等 

-(D) 目標導向性活動,  例如進修課程、知識尋找 ; 建立個人網絡、品牌、獨特平台

知而不行的, 好比一個無知的人, 把房子蓋在沙土上 !

(待續)