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Dr. Charles Lam has since 1971 received training in West Germany (telecom) and university education in U.K. (management) and acquired working experiences in Hong Kong and Canada, in a utility company, Hong Kong Government, a multinational organization and a SME. In his career path, he has acquired qualifications from UK institutions including DBA (1990), MBA (1980) and Chartered Engineer (1978). Since 1986, he has left pure engineering to teaching various subjects of business management in Hong Kong for famous universities of Hong Kong, England and United States. He also has served the society as a member of an advisory committee of the Hong Kong Government for eight years, and as the Hon. Chairman of its Consumer Education Group. Later, he set up his own company to offer services as a consultant, writer and speaker. In his 'Second Half Time', he has been working passionately on integrating Christian values with management knowledge, in the marketplace/workplace ministry, serving hospitals, churches and organizations, as a speaker, consultant, life coach, and the leader of a REST Group based on a life story approach. Charles is currently living with his wife in Canada.

Thursday, August 25, 2016

REST式的 生命影響生命

*「 起承轉合」方法: "當你回望過去發生的事情( 起),及反思事情發生的因果及當時的感受( 承), 你可以更加了解自己(承), 因而作思維和價值的更新(轉), 要為走前面人生路的計劃做得好(合), 策略實踐得好, 和進度可以跟進(合)"

*引導「羊兒」

-連結過去、現在 (起、承)、 將來 (轉、合) ... 生命故事要繼續寫下去!
-一步步傳遞「 起承轉合」思維. 是生命的見證、示範, 不只是教導、引導
-用「 起承轉合」講生命故事就是傳福音

(1)「起」= R = Recollection of incidents in the past (追溯歷史, 回憶以往的發展和成績)
-回憶人生路的what, when, where, who
-可從不同起步點追溯
-提醒從前經歷多未必好, 可能是迷失

(2) 「承」= E = Enlightenment through reflection (從反思經歷得新啟發, 更加了解自己)
-在成敗、得失、升跌、離合的過程中--當時的反應 ((不)面對、(不)接受、情緒等); 酸甜苦辣的感受
-為更加了解自己--哲學、性格、強弱項、恩賜、熱忱等
-為克服心理障礙; 接受(神的)醫治; 接受有一些路不能走回頭
-了解經歷可能是神塑造生命; 要尋求 神的旨意、召命; 每個生命是獨特的

(3) 「轉」= S = Shifting the paradigms (範式轉換: 悔改、心意更新、價值改變)
-不跟隨世界價值. 從神看成功、事業、資產、回報、婚姻、豐盛生命
-立志忘記過去不好的東西
要識得放手 , 要改過

(4) 「合」= T = Tracking actions planned and taken (行動計劃與追踪)
-連結由上而下(使命、召命)思維和由下而上行動 (個人管理) ; 不只說「願神帶領」
-連結路徑 : 事業(career life)、私人(private life)、社會責任(society life) . 不聖俗二分化
-定標竿, 改變習慣、角色等; 向著標竿直跑 (腓 利 比 3:13-14)
-為達目標, 執行, 駕駛, 聖靈的帶領, 監控
-不用太急要「羊兒」行「合」這步. 要先在「起、承、轉」建立基礎

*REST 式生命影響生命獨特之處
-不僅在個別事件上作影響,是在「羊兒」生命(故事) 作影響: 活得更豐盛(約十 : 10)
-影響者相信「起承轉合」這方法, 和在個人「轉」後有活出豐盛生命的經歷
-為人父母可以用這方法啟發和影響子女 (也有建議要開始一個 "REST for parents"組)
-除「單對單」幫助「羊兒」外, 也可以帶他到REST小組, 為生命影響生命