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Dr. Charles Lam has since 1971 received training in West Germany (telecom) and university education in U.K. (management) and acquired working experiences in Hong Kong and Canada, in a utility company, Hong Kong Government, a multinational organization and a SME. In his career path, he has acquired qualifications from UK institutions including DBA (1990), MBA (1980) and Chartered Engineer (1978). Since 1986, he has left pure engineering to teaching various subjects of business management in Hong Kong for famous universities of Hong Kong, England and United States. He also has served the society as a member of an advisory committee of the Hong Kong Government for eight years, and as the Hon. Chairman of its Consumer Education Group. Later, he set up his own company to offer services as a consultant, writer and speaker. In his 'Second Half Time', he has been working passionately on integrating Christian values with management knowledge, in the marketplace/workplace ministry, serving hospitals, churches and organizations, as a speaker, consultant, life coach, and the leader of a REST Group based on a life story approach. Charles is currently living with his wife in Canada.

Monday, June 08, 2015

經歷(起)多但反思(承)少, 能否更新(轉)? (part 3/3)

(4)「起」、「承」帶來真的 「轉」(S = Shifting the paradigms )

-「起」、「承」是回顧過去, 是「轉」的呼聲 (the call for change)

-「起」而不「承」, 是「短路」的學習 (short-circuit learning)!

-「轉」是悔改; 會有迷失、掙扎、痛苦

-「轉」是為未來的「合」--蝴蝶需要一個自己掙扎破蛹的痛苦的過程; 是神的管教和磨練

-「轉」像換上了屬靈「新眼鏡」. 從前是瞎眼, 現在可看見前路, 尋求祂的旨意!

-是「
為得力而得息(為動而靜) , 不只求平靜

-多數人追求 tangibles (可量度、見到) e.g. 數目、速度。「轉」
知道Intangibles 更重要

-「轉」= 範式轉換(paradigm shift), 知道那裏放手, 壓力便會減少; 時間與角色便會管理得好些. 做事從心裏作; 為神作, 不為人作! 生命便可以活得更精彩!

*思想、討論
-從前的轉捩點是否真的「轉」? 例如: 個人業務、事業路向的改變?

-「活在當下就是幸福」 是否正
逃避「轉」?

Tuesday, June 02, 2015

經歷(起)多但反思(承)少, 能否更新(轉)? (part 2/3)

(3) 反思, 不只是回憶、回味 --(承)(E- Enlightenment through reflection )

-反思/思考 why, how (衝擊), how (回應)

-分析事情發生的因果--是因為環境、機會、威脅、人物、機構、性格、情緒、健康、 等?

-了解個人當下之感受和反應--酸甜苦辣、 自豪、挫敗、困惑… (不能)面對、(不能)接受、激動、放棄、等

-為什麼事情而感恩? 是神的手保護着、牽引着?

-喜歡回到那時嗎 ? 還有什麼想完成的事情? 為何?

-心裡還埋藏了什麼迷網、矛盾、苦痛? 為什麼想(或不想)忘記呢? 還沈溺着從前的光輝? 還有不甘心? 未饒恕?……

-"Turn your scars into stars!" Bobert H. Schuller

-察覺到什麼重覆出現的「模式」? --因為當時的環境
因為自己?

-檢規後更加了解自己--哲學、品格、強弱項、恩賜、熱忱、性格

-走過這些路後, 其實自己也變了--性格 (正義? 倔強? 驕傲? 無知? 疏忽?...), 名、利、權力的追求? 願不願意放手?....價值觀、世界觀 、人生觀的改變 (就是以前的「轉」) ?

-學懂了什麽?-- 智慧、知識比學位、証書更寶貴!

-了解到轉捩點多未必帶來真的 「轉」

-神怎樣看我的過去? 祂要我學習什麽? 祂是否為未來塑造我? 召命的認定.

*思想、討論

-經歷多可能是迷失, 未必是學習得好! 同意否?
-從回顧過去, 知道人的「軟」性的產業 (assets) 比「硬」性的產業更為更要
-思想從前、現在、將來:“為誰辛苦為何忙!?”

經歷(起)多但反思(承)少, 能否更新(轉)? (part 1/3)

(1) 引言

*用「 起承轉合」方法寫生命故事: "當你回望過去發生的事情( 起),及反思事情發生的因果及當時的感受( 承), 你可以更加了解自己(承), 因而作思維和價值的更新(轉), 要為走前面人生路的計劃做得好(合), 策略實踐得好和進度可以跟進(合)"

(2) 記憶從前多經歷--(起) (R= Recollection of incidents in the past)

-回憶what, when, where, who

-在WL (事業路): 是學位、証書、資歷的擁有? 是工作、職業、專業、網絡的數目? 是事業路、產業、權力的起跌? 是名氣、地位、掌聲的升降?......

-在 PL (私人生活): 是親人、朋友、角色、網絡的多少? 是感情 (情侶、親人)的波浪? 是搬屋、移民、旅遊、嗜好的數目? 是信仰、事奉、健康路的經歷?……

-在 SL (社會生活): 是做義工、服務的多寡? 是貢獻 、 回饋社會的大小?....

-感嘆往事只能回味? 是雲霧, 或是種子?