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Dr. Charles Lam has since 1971 received training in West Germany (telecom) and university education in U.K. (management) and acquired working experiences in Hong Kong and Canada, in a utility company, Hong Kong Government, a multinational organization and a SME. In his career path, he has acquired qualifications from UK institutions including DBA (1990), MBA (1980) and Chartered Engineer (1978). Since 1986, he has left pure engineering to teaching various subjects of business management in Hong Kong for famous universities of Hong Kong, England and United States. He also has served the society as a member of an advisory committee of the Hong Kong Government for eight years, and as the Hon. Chairman of its Consumer Education Group. Later, he set up his own company to offer services as a consultant, writer and speaker. In his 'Second Half Time', he has been working passionately on integrating Christian values with management knowledge, in the marketplace/workplace ministry, serving hospitals, churches and organizations, as a speaker, consultant, life coach, and the leader of a REST Group based on a life story approach. Charles is currently living with his wife in Canada.

Thursday, February 21, 2013

懷着世俗的心態返教會和去事奉


前幾天我說會嘗試探素在現今世代, 一些他們返教會和事奉的原因, 有正面的也有負面的; 希望能將管理的角度和成員的角度連结, 找到一些「以人(生命)為本」的教會管理方法.

相信有信徒(或準信徒)是懷着世俗的心態返教會和去事奉的。

"如果A君來, 可以為B君打氣; "多啲人, 好啲氣氛!"; "你吾去我就吾去"; "你做我就做"; "冇辦法, xx叫到!"; "冇得揀, 我是會友!".....這裡包括了一些「交差」心態。

希望不會有太多人只為比較、勝利(因為妒忌)而來!

也希望不會有太多人只為吃喝玩樂、打發時間、識女(或男)仔、派咭片、兜生意而來! .....這裡包括了一些「揾食」心態。

一間堂會如果有濃烈的「家庭」、「社交群體」、「閒暇場所」功能(參考之前模式) 會吸引這些人。

又, 教會領袖需不需要用又屬靈又屬世的方法去處理他們呢?

新年了, 希望不會有太多人為拜年而返教會吧!


(Facebook posting 寫於蛇年前夕)

離開、流浪、回轉



離開
-為什麼一位成員或參與者會離開?
-不滿意制度,例如太多規則、考試才能成為會員?才能開始工作?
-工作上遇到太多困難?「做錯」了事?... 「退休」年齡已到?
-不喜歡組織的文化或領導? 獎勵制度不公平?(與其他組織相比後)
-在人力資源管理,有名叫離職面談 (Exit Interview) 的,試圖去了解員工離開的原因,為了改善組織的制度
-離開多久? 短期或永久?
-離開後他想些什麼? 感恩(能脫苦海)?痛苦? 麻木?....

流浪
-感覺像一個孤兒?很想休息?是新的開始?迷失?....
-對於那些感覺是脫苦海的,如何才能消除那痛根?
-正是一個很好的時間去反思、忘記過去,勇往直前
-再尋找相似組織,或是要行一條新的路?

回轉
-與導師交談後? 從各種學習後?
-你是返回那裹?你的「家」?一份謀生的工作?....一條豐盛的生命路?
-如果是返回原來的組織,你會得到歡迎嗎?

以上是為職場的領袖, 也是為教會的領袖。
我曾經與很多位教會牧者和領袖談及成員離開、流浪、回轉這些問題, 但覺得不應該只停在一些回應上-- "很難處理”,"需要大量的資源才能處理", "他們是隨時歡迎回來的", 等。


我們可否察驗以上的問題, 為尋找教會管理的答案呢?